- End of Life Planning - Grief Support - Legacy of Our Loved Ones healing workshops for those who have been directly impacted by violence - Support services that center the experiences of LGBTQI communities
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End of Life Planning and Grief Support
I am here to serve as a compassionate presence for those who are dying and grieving.
Here is a list of services I provide in support of your journey:
Planning for the End of Life Whether you are currently living with serious illness, serving as the primary caregiver to someone with life-limiting illness, or thinking down the road about your final days, end of life planning can feel overwhelming. It requires us to ask difficult questions and think of things we may never have considered. But approaching these issues can also be quite empowering, especially with the proper support and guidance. How would you like to spend the last months, weeks, and days of your life? Where do you want to be and who do you want to be there with you? What do you want that space to look and feel like? Together, we will discuss these questions and many more to ensure that you live your life to its fullest even in your final moments.
If you are a caregiver, family member, partner or friend who is looking for support in making these plans on your loved one's behalf, we will work as a team to be sure that your loved one's life is lived and honored in a way that reflects who they are and the vastness of your love for them.
End of life planning also involves many logistical considerations. We will take this one step at a time and work together to alleviate this stress. Some examples of things I can offer support with include: - Practical Resources and Referrals - Advanced Directives - Funeral Planning
Companionship I am here as someone who you can talk to, laugh with, and cry in front of without judgement. You do not have to travel this journey alone. I will be here to show up in the ways that you need.
A Peaceful Atmosphere at the End of Life I will help you create an environment that is comfortable, calming, and filled with what is most important to you. We can make sure there are nice fabrics, sounds, aromas and objects that feel meaningful and fill the space with love and light.
Spiritual Support Whether you are an atheist or follow a specific religion, I am available to talk with you about your beliefs and spiritual questions in a way that is expansive and leaves room for multiple belief systems. I have no agenda. If you have a faith practice, we can work together to make sure you are connected with spiritual leaders in your community who will support you in this time. I am also experienced in creating meaningful rituals to commemorate death as a sacred rite of passage. I would be honored to work with you to create a ceremony or sacred space that truly reflects your beliefs and life.
Legacy Building What is your legacy? What stories, memories, and beliefs do you want to make sure live on in the hearts of your friends, family, and community? Together we will find ways to document your history and pass on the things that are most important to you.
Offering Respite and a Watchful Presence at the Bedside Many times friends and family members find it difficult to leave their loved one's side, even for just a moment. I can serve as someone who will offer respite. I will help to communicate with nurses and caregivers when I notice any changes or observe physical signs of discomfort.
Guided Meditation, Visualization and Grounding Meditation, visualization and grounding are practices that are widely believed to support physical, emotional, and spiritual wellness. I am available to guide you through these modalities which can alleviate anxiety and create an overall sense of calm.
Herbal Support Humans have tapped into herbal medicine for centuries to access some of the innate healing properties of plants. As an herbalist, I can offer plant-based recommendations for optimal holistic support. Please note that it is always a good idea to consult your doctor before introducing medicinal herbs into your health plan.
Support During the Loss of a Pet Anyone who has loved a dear pet knows that they are a part of the family. Losing this loyal companion can cause significant feelings of grief. We all want our animal-friends to live without pain and die peacefully. I am available as someone who can offer support during this transition. I can assist with end of life planning, be present when it's time to say your last goodbye, and work with you to create a ritual or ceremony that honors your special companion once they're gone.
Follow Up Support In the weeks after the death of a loved one, I will follow up with family members and friends as a companion through grief. I will connect them with longterm bereavement services and resources as well.
Most Importantly* The way I provide support to each person will differ depending on your specific needs. I am here to listen and show up in the way that best serves you. We will work together to create a plan, come to an understanding about which services meet your needs, and communicate openly about what boundaries should be in place to ensure that our time together feels clear and beneficial to all. And your needs may change over time, so together we will be sensitive, responsive, honest and open to the shifts as they come.
For inquiries, rates and appointments, please visit my contact page.
Legacy of Our Loved Ones
Legacy of Our Loved Ones is a series of healing sessions for anyone who has lost a loved one to violence.
Eleven years ago, my close cousin was violently killed, an experience that forever changed my outlook on life. Through my own grief journey, I found art-making to be an incredibly healing force that can also generate concrete ways to document our histories. In 2015 I partnered with Tamara Davidson and the Coney Island Anti-Violence Collaborative to facilitate arts and healing workshops as a way of documenting and honoring the lives of those lost to gun violence in Coney Island.
Our loved ones came into this world, impacted our lives, shared their love, had their struggles, and were taken from this world too soon. That means something. Their legacies mean the world to us and their lives were not lived in vain.
In this series, participants are guided through a process of honoring their loved one’s legacy by creating scrapbooks, memorial jewelry and engaging in writing exercises, meditation and sound healing practices. It is incredibly powerful to work alongside others who have experienced traumatic loss, communally finding ways to honor the unique legacies of the people we love.
If you represent an organization or community group looking to offer healing workshops to those who have been directly impacted by violence, please contact me for more information about how to bring Legacy of Our Loved Ones to your community.
Serving LGBTQI Communities
As a member of the LGBTQI community, I am particularly aware of and sensitive to the needs of LGBTQI people, including our elders. Many of us have lost contact with blood family members or don't have children who may have otherwise taken on a supportive role at the end of life. It's no secret to any of us that the medical establishment often misunderstands the specific needs of LGBTQI people. In the worst cases, patients and families are met with discrimination and outright abuse within institutional settings. Even settings that are actively trying to be more inclusive of LGBTQI people can feel alienating at times. There's a feeling and reality that it might be safer to "go back into the closet" as we age and/or become ill, because the nursing homes, hospitals, and hospices we rely on to provide our care may not be fully equipped to meet our needs as LGBTQI people. The end of your life should feel like a sacred time when you are held in the fullness of who you are. I am here as an advocate and companion who aims to ensure that more members of my LGBTQI family are treated well throughout terminal illness and die peacefully with dignity.
I am also acutely aware of the violence and traumatic loss that overwhelmingly effects our communities, this being especially true for QTPOC. If you live in New York City and someone you love within the LGBTQI community has died by suicide, been killed in a hate crime or by the police, I will meet with you to offer my support as a compassionate presence and connect you with resources as you continue to grieve and begin to heal. If I am not able to work with you directly, I will refer you to someone else with bereavement experience and awareness around LGBTQI issues.*
For more information or to set up an appointment, please contact me here.
*Please note that my services are not a replacement for medical care or mental health services. Everything I offer is meant to further support your process and exist in conjunction with your team of healthcare providers. Seek the overall care you need.